triggers — Blog

I heard once that for every negative or stressful thought that we experience, chemicals related to that emotion are released into our system, and they remain there for a certain amount of time – generally eight to twelve seconds.

This perpetuates unhealthy mental states – including anxiety and depression – because our body is continuing to express those chemicals while we ruminate (get stuck on a thought) on the negative experience and keep it fresh in our minds.

The question is, then, why do we ruminate? Why do we allow ourselves to get stuck on a problem and run it over and over in our heads? Does it serve a purpose?

neurosculptingAra Lee WeldonApril 29, 2022ruminate, thought spiral, triggers

How to Get Unstuck From Relationship Triggers

If you read my blog, Why We Get Triggered in Relationships, you’re probably wondering what can be done about it. The good news is, I developed a system for stopping negative thought spirals, as well as in-the-moment relationship triggers.

I call it NIRS, but the phonetic pronunciation is “Nurse” – and when I think of what it means to “Nurse” myself, it means to be in gentle care as I shepherd myself through rehabilitation; in this case, it is to NIRS myself through a trigger. NIRS stands for Notice, Interrupt, Redirect, and State Change. I’ll go into each of these in more depth below.

transformationMichelle Lee WeldonFebruary 18, 2022NIRS, triggers, relationships

Why We Get Triggered in Relationships

We all get triggered in relationships at some point, and when that moment unexpectedly comes, it can be very uncomfortable.

Triggers are as individual as we are – they’re based on our personality, our upbringing, and any wounds or trauma we’ve experienced throughout our lives. Learning why they occur for us, the impact they have on our lives, and how to get unstuck from them is key in maturing as an adult.