If you read my blog, Why We Get Triggered in Relationships, you’re probably wondering what can be done about it. The good news is, I developed a system for stopping negative thought spirals, as well as in-the-moment relationship triggers.

I call it NIRS, but the phonetic pronunciation is “Nurse” – and when I think of what it means to “Nurse” myself, it means to be in gentle care as I shepherd myself through rehabilitation; in this case, it is to NIRS myself through a trigger. NIRS stands for Notice, Interrupt, Redirect, and State Change. I’ll go into each of these in more depth below.

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