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Our society loves to talk about toxic masculinity, toxic positivity, toxic relationships, toxic food, and even toxic environments. These are all terms I’ve personally heard being tossed around with abandon, and I’m sure there are even more out there.

Now, this is a good thing in a way – this shows we are driving towards a more inclusive, empowered society that stands up for ourselves and for each other.

But what I don’t love about this is that it often comes with a lot of shame and blame attached.

relationshipsAra Lee WeldonJune 6, 2022toxicity, relationships

How to Get Unstuck From Relationship Triggers

If you read my blog, Why We Get Triggered in Relationships, you’re probably wondering what can be done about it. The good news is, I developed a system for stopping negative thought spirals, as well as in-the-moment relationship triggers.

I call it NIRS, but the phonetic pronunciation is “Nurse” – and when I think of what it means to “Nurse” myself, it means to be in gentle care as I shepherd myself through rehabilitation; in this case, it is to NIRS myself through a trigger. NIRS stands for Notice, Interrupt, Redirect, and State Change. I’ll go into each of these in more depth below.

transformationMichelle Lee WeldonFebruary 18, 2022NIRS, triggers, relationships

Why We Get Triggered in Relationships

We all get triggered in relationships at some point, and when that moment unexpectedly comes, it can be very uncomfortable.

Triggers are as individual as we are – they’re based on our personality, our upbringing, and any wounds or trauma we’ve experienced throughout our lives. Learning why they occur for us, the impact they have on our lives, and how to get unstuck from them is key in maturing as an adult.