Blog — Ara Lee

How to Get Unstuck From Relationship Triggers

If you read my blog, Why We Get Triggered in Relationships, you’re probably wondering what can be done about it. The good news is, I developed a system for stopping negative thought spirals, as well as in-the-moment relationship triggers.

I call it NIRS, but the phonetic pronunciation is “Nurse” – and when I think of what it means to “Nurse” myself, it means to be in gentle care as I shepherd myself through rehabilitation; in this case, it is to NIRS myself through a trigger. NIRS stands for Notice, Interrupt, Redirect, and State Change. I’ll go into each of these in more depth below.

transformationAra Lee WeldonFebruary 18, 2022NIRS, triggers, relationships

Why We Get Triggered in Relationships

We all get triggered in relationships at some point, and when that moment unexpectedly comes, it can be very uncomfortable.

Triggers are as individual as we are – they’re based on our personality, our upbringing, and any wounds or trauma we’ve experienced throughout our lives. Learning why they occur for us, the impact they have on our lives, and how to get unstuck from them is key in maturing as an adult.

relationshipsAra Lee WeldonFebruary 11, 2022relationships, triggers